The Roommate Chronicles Part III

Great news: I have officially had a roommate for 3 months !

Bad news: I have officially had a roommate for 3 months!

*cue record scratch* I know you are probably asking “how is that both a good and bad thing”No fear my ever inquisitive reader, I will tell you.

First off, 3 months is a long time especially when you are living with another person.  I am really beginning to see the negatives of living with my best friend. It is becoming more apparent that we are a whole lot different that we thought before we were roommates and its really throwing me for a loop. Also I am really seeing that when discussing money, things WILL get tense! there is no way around that. Its worse when the both of you have very different money management styles .

I am still unemployed, and I think this is making me a lot more tense than normal. I am not used to being out of work and it is seriously stressing me out. Another reason I think things are starting to get tense is because she always complains about going to both work and school. I understand its hard but it is necessary for survival.

I am beginning to notice that she is extremely judgmental. She is a smart ass, and this is something I hadn’t noticed before now.

I am really trying to deal but with me finding new things daily its kind of hard. There will be more to come so stay tuned for more exciting tales from the Roommate Chronicles.

*I know this post is really late, this was supposed to be for November but I completely forgot to publish it. I promise to stay on schedule next time!*

Death and why it is a part of life

Death is this mysterious thing that many people fear. We don’t know when or why it shows up but, we know that it leaves a painful void when it leaves. We begin to reminisce on the good in lieu of the hurt and the pain we feel; as if we are throwing caution to the wind in this final attempt to keep the one we lost closer to us. We can’t. Not in the physical anyway. In these moments of intense grief we fail to realize that in essence death is necessary. Not for the deceased, but for the living. Death teaches us all that life isn’t permanent nor predictable. It also teaches us to hold on to all that is positive in the face of great negativity and that we should cherish every moment that we spend breathing because we never know when we will take our last breath.

For all we know
We may never meet again
Before you go
Make this moment sweet again
-Donny Hathaway

The Roommate Chronicles Part II

I have been living in my new place for almost 2 months now and the honeymoon phase is ending, I am beginning to see my roommate for the person she is. I see habits, mannerisms and the things she does when she is in her home element. Just like any person I see things that I don’t particularly care for. For example, she leaves dishes everywhere. I on the other hand hate dirty dishes. There are things that I dislike that she does. This is where the learning/growing experience comes into play. I am learning that my traditional methods of dealing with people are a bit abrasive and out of date, they would turn an otherwise delicate situation into WWIII. I am figuring out a way that will help me deal with what I don’t like and come to her in a mature manner and still be characteristically firm. It’s going to be a long process but its one I am willing to work on.

Roomies...its not all fun and games

The Roommate Chronicles Part I

This year I will be moving out on my own for the first time ever! A brand new start in a brand new city, I am extremely excited and nervous at the same time. I have my school provisions straightened out now all I need is to find an apartment.

I have that out the way (I know, look at me being a responsible adult and taking care of business). Now all I need to consider is a roommate. Who in the world is more suitable to have as a roomie other than my best friend? Right?

They say that you never really get to know someone until you live with them, I am a firm believer in that saying. We are as different as night and day and that is what made us really good friends; but when you are living under the same roof those differences can become the reason that a friendship that was once solid as a rock can become weaker than a toasted marshmallow in the middle of August. This is not to say that our friendship will crumble or deteriorate over time because just like a romantic relationship there needs to be communication, honesty and compromise to make this living arrangement work. I believe that if we do have these three components and put them to use we can make it work and become better people for it.

I Wish

I wish I could go back….

back to a time when life was simple and pain was non existent.

A time when having fun  was law and a sunny day just meant that the sky was happy too

I wish to go back to a time when laughter was the soundtrack for life and dreams were just as real as you and I.

I wish I could go back to a time when happiness was measured by the the games we play, not the bills we pay.

I wish I could go back to a time where imagination was measured by the stars in the sky not by the reality that haunts every second of our being.

I wish I could go back to a time were the worth a person was not measured by their appearance, but by the size of their smile.

I wish I could go back, but in life there are no rewind buttons.

It will get better.

At a point in our daily lives we all get down and discouraged with the way our lives have turned out at that particular time. We begin to reflect and see that we are not were we want or even need to be.  If you are like me you have always had a strict plan for your life even from the time you were a child and that at any given point in life you knew where you were going to be and your next step. As a child I knew I was going to attend Harvard and  graduate with a law degree and burst on the scene as the biggest rising star the legal arena has ever seen. I had plans on being bigger than Johnnie Cochran!  At this point in my life I am about as far from my plan as I can possibly be.  As I got older My plan evolved to something more realistic and even then I couldn’t maintain the means to accomplish even my revised plan.

It does not always turn out like that. I learned this the hard way. So we get down and discouraged, and after that the downward spiral continues. We start doubting our abilities and questioning our very judgements. The confidence in yourself begins to dwindle.  Instead of beating ourselves up because we are not a specific point we have to keep pushing forward and tell ourselves that we can make it. We have to overcome the negativity not only from the outsiders but from the biggest critic we have: Yourself. I have a saying:

“You biggest critic is not the person on the outside but the man/woman in the mirror”

Don’t listen to the negativity. It does nothing but hinder your progress. Another way we can stop this is keeping our eyes on our personal goals. We have to stop looking at other people and what they are doing and their successes, because what is good for them may not be good for you. Also, you never know what that person had gone through to get to were they are today, you may not be able to handle their struggle. Besides if you are too busy comparing your progress to someone else, you might miss your big break!

Keep your head up and your eyes on the prize because it will get better.

Peace, Love, and Happiness

-Coco Lady

Self Disclosure….My fancy way of saying About Me!

Hey Fellow Bloggers!

My name is Brittany and I am currently a college student majoring in psychology. I am very interested in the way that the mind works and I want to make a career out of it.  I am a laid back kinda girl like 95% of the time but the other 5 % I am on some extreme of the emotional spectrum, (admit it, you have these moments also!) For those of you that are astrology buffs I am a Gemini ( and before you even think it, Gemini’s are not crazy! We are emotionally expressive and can jump from one emotional extreme to the polar opposite and back again in a matter of 2.5 seconds! Its not a good idea to piss me off).

I am actually really shy, I generally won’t talk to you unless you talk to me, that is no reflection on you;  that is just the way I am. I like to sit and observe my surroundings before I act. Knowing what to expect is the key trick to responding to certain stimuli in a particular environments. I have a thing for intelligent guys. It does not matter if its book or street smarts as long as you can hold an interesting conversation about something more than the latest Lil Wayne song or sports I am a fan.

I am a lover of music! If I could, I would love to be a music producer. If money was no object I would surely pursue this dream but for practicality sake, I am in school. I can’t really call the crap on the radio today music,and that really makes me unhappy. There is only so many different ways to talk about money, cars, clothes, and women; but that is another topic altogether!

My head is always in the clouds. I am a dreamer. Any time during the day I will go off into my own world and daydream about the things that make me happy. If you have not tried it,  do so, its very entertaining!

There is so much more about me that I could say but at the risk of coming off like a narcissistic asshole I am going to end it here. I look forward to interacting with you all! Thanks for stopping by and happy reading!

-Brittany a.k.a. Coco Lady!

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